Why Your Self-Development Practice Doesn’t Really Work
Do you find your self-improvement efforts difficult and less productive than you had hoped? Do you put more into working on yourself than you get out? Or no matter how hard you try, something feels missing or wrong? Most people involved in self-improvement work find some or all of these statements true.
And for good reason: we are the marching troops who cast off the very force within ourselves that would lead to our destination, never considering the origin of our hardships. This need not be the case. The information presented here, what I call the Emotion Solution, shows you not only how to retrieve the dismissed life force that brings your self-development goals home, but move far beyond into the realms of higher consciousness.
The Loss of Connection
Look at your self-growth problem in terms of a battery: a potential energy source that has a positive and a negative pole to access its capacities. When both poles are hooked up to an appropriate task, a battery can accomplish many a wonder through the now-available working flow of its energy. But take that same battery and hook up only one pole to a task, and it is ineffectual; it can’t do anything. Or you can partially block the flow of energy to any one pole and get only partial results. And this is our problem: by degrees, we suppress one pole of our human life force. In so doing, we achieve partial results that makes available only part of our potential. We all do it.
Your Optimal State
Like a battery, your effective output depends upon the degree of energy flowing from one poles to the other. The polarities of the human life force are described as the positive masculine pole and the negative feminine pole. For our purposes, we will focus on the intellectual and rational qualities of the masculine pole, and the emotional and intuitive nature of the feminine. A free flow of energy between your two poles makes available the breadth of your life force, and this force can be applied to any task—in this case our self-improvement and mental health work.
Your Current Block
One might assume that common sense tells us to engage both our poles in equal measure, in order to access our full potential to accomplish what we might. But this is far from the case. Western culture has taught us to accept our feel-good emotions and shun our dark emotions—a fair part of our constitution. The result in a devastating imbalance between our emotions and intellect. That our dark emotions could prove as beneficial and potentially uplifting as our warm and fuzzy emotions is rarely given a thought; rather, we conditioned ourselves to hate or fear the emotions that aren’t gratifying. And so we push them aside and unwittingly act them out, harming ourselves and others. This further reinforces the indoctrination that says our shadow side brings us to ruin and is to be avoided at any cost. But the true cost of this dynamic is that by pushing these parts away, we forfeit our energy and inhibit our ability to grow. When responsibly received in your consciousness, your dark emotions inform, transform, and propel you forward. This unrecognized contributor is what transports you out of a life run in circles, to one where you pick a destination, navigate, and soar.
The Solution: Include All of Yourself
You may argue that emotions such as fear, greed, jealousy, hate, and anger could not possibly hold the keys to your growth and evolution. But if you give the Emotion Solution a fair try, you’ll find that including rejected emotions in your self-development efforts opens the front door to self-transformation like nothing else. You have been taught to acknowledge your shadow side, but you’ve never let its force guide you in your attempts to achieve lasting change. Presented here is a step-by-step process to do just that. It takes effort, ingenuity, and perseverance, but it gets easier as you proceed, for once you get a handle on the principles, apply them, and gain some ground, more of your innate power becomes available to bolster yet further progress. Better still: this change will not be slow and incremental, it becomes exponential. When both your polarities run in congress—unfettered emotion with unbridled mind—your progress doesn’t simply double, it moves at rates without parallel. It becomes revelatory. Your growth becomes, at last, unchained.
The Emotion Solution is composed of five steps: Recognize, Express/Explore/Embody, Internalize, Transform, and Unify through Time. Applying these steps to your present efforts at self-growth is relatively simple, yet can yield unprecedented results in a short time. But enabling your emotions to function on equal footing with your mind on a permanent basis is neither simple nor quick, for mind has become your master, and it does not like to relinquish its position. It manages when, where, and to what extent our emotions can be seen and heard. In other words, our masculine polarity dominates our feminine polarity. As a result of our prejudice, ignorance, and ungrounded fear, our mind exploits the emotions that it finds pleasing and throws what it regards as unusable into the slag heap. This self-defeating, growth-inhibiting state-of-play seems to know no end. But the dominance of mind can be challenged. The Emotion Solution gives you the tools to do so.